It reminds me of a tragic story of my friend and her husband "Pete." Pete had a severe set of strokes over the course of 2 weeks that he somehow survived, but left him partially paralyzed, and chunk of his brain essentially dead. He went from a brilliant extrovert, life of the party, amazing sense of humour etc to... anything but. Difficulty communicating, almost no emotion either way. Its like her husband died and this new person, Pete 2.0 was now in her life that she was responsible for to look after like a teenager with many physical and complex psychological needs. She still loved him and looked after him until he passed away 15 or so years later. She would visit him regularly at Long Term care in his final year. Another friend, a PSW said in her experience it was 50/50 whether a spouse sticks it out with "Pete 2.0". Pete post stroke was not at all a worm of course, but he was nothing like the old Pete.
If only brain transplants were a thing. Imagine all the billionaires transplanting themselves into younger cloned (or better yet, someone else’s cloned and genetically modified) bodies!
If you think about it and as per Leonard Cohen’s delightful song, we’re all just a “brief elaboration of a tube”, embryologically and phylogenetically speaking.
The problem with depending on someone loving you because they are irrationally, "just in love!" is that it's irrational. If it's irrational to begin with there is no way to know when they'll just fall out of love: often happens, by all reports.
To be thoroughly unromantic, I model romantic attachment as a combination of irrational "chemistry", qualities (looks, wealth, personality, etc.) and, importantly, shared experience. Chemistry may or may not endure. Looks fade and wealth may be transient. But shared experience necessarily grows, adding irreplaceable history, depth, and meaning. With luck and effort it will outweigh any deterioration in chemistry or material factors.
I checked with my wife. She said she'd love me if I were an isosceles or equilateral triangle, but not scalene.
I understand, even if it hurts. A woman has to draw the line somewhere.
If she is using the material conditional, the statement is always (vacuously) true because the antecedent is false!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vacuous_truth
It reminds me of a tragic story of my friend and her husband "Pete." Pete had a severe set of strokes over the course of 2 weeks that he somehow survived, but left him partially paralyzed, and chunk of his brain essentially dead. He went from a brilliant extrovert, life of the party, amazing sense of humour etc to... anything but. Difficulty communicating, almost no emotion either way. Its like her husband died and this new person, Pete 2.0 was now in her life that she was responsible for to look after like a teenager with many physical and complex psychological needs. She still loved him and looked after him until he passed away 15 or so years later. She would visit him regularly at Long Term care in his final year. Another friend, a PSW said in her experience it was 50/50 whether a spouse sticks it out with "Pete 2.0". Pete post stroke was not at all a worm of course, but he was nothing like the old Pete.
If only brain transplants were a thing. Imagine all the billionaires transplanting themselves into younger cloned (or better yet, someone else’s cloned and genetically modified) bodies!
If you think about it and as per Leonard Cohen’s delightful song, we’re all just a “brief elaboration of a tube”, embryologically and phylogenetically speaking.
The problem with depending on someone loving you because they are irrationally, "just in love!" is that it's irrational. If it's irrational to begin with there is no way to know when they'll just fall out of love: often happens, by all reports.
To be thoroughly unromantic, I model romantic attachment as a combination of irrational "chemistry", qualities (looks, wealth, personality, etc.) and, importantly, shared experience. Chemistry may or may not endure. Looks fade and wealth may be transient. But shared experience necessarily grows, adding irreplaceable history, depth, and meaning. With luck and effort it will outweigh any deterioration in chemistry or material factors.