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The “Call from a friend” example suggests something important about human subjective experiences- we don’t know whether an experience is good or bad while we’re having it, or at the very least, our experiences are revised retroactively. In other words, the memory of a good experience can be a bad experience.

Example: for twenty years I was happily married and that’s what I reported to anyone who asked, but after my divorce I say to anyone careless enough to ask that my marriage was a mistake I’d rather not have made and we were never really happy.

Which ought to be more respected- our experiences as we experience them, or our reviews of them after the fact?

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