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Todd Hargrove's avatar

Thanks, Paul. This is the best take I’ve seen on this topic. One idea I would add: both the stereotypically male and female styles have characteristic strengths and weaknesses, not only in truth-seeking, but in other areas like parenting or cooperation. Under this view, there are healthy or virtuous ways to be characteristically male (e.g. brave, independent, principled), as well as unhealthy or "toxic" ways to be male (vengeful, domineering, aggressive). The same holds for femininity. In fact, one of the simplest ways to understand wokeness is that it provides benefit where it promotes stereotypically feminine virtues like empathy and caring, but causes problems when it enables unhealthy manifestations of these qualities, such as gossip, social exclusion, selective empathy, or mama bear aggression. This is also the simplest lens to understand the MAGA movement – it's a very unhealthy version of masculine behavior, lacking the male virtues.

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Bygone & Buzz's avatar

Interesting read! I think part of what the author considers femininity is simply politeness. Women are conditioned since birth to make ourselves more palatable to everyone, so it could simply be our own internalized sexism to attempt to soften uncomfortable truths. And I do this myself, but it doesn’t stop me from speaking my mind, just in a more polite way. I’m an analytical person in higher Ed that values free speech, but some conditioning is hard to overcome. I agree, that men being outwardly argumentative doesn’t help either. Hopefully we can simply educate others in civil discourse.

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